Lilith
Asteroid Lilith #1181 – Dark Moon Lilith #h58 – Black Moon Lilith #h13True #h12Mean
Never have I ever… seen a luminary with as many versions, names, symbols and distinctive energies as I have when looking at Lilith. I’m here to try to help simplify all of the information out there. There are 3, 4, 3.5(?) different variations of Lilith. Each one is a significantly more progressed stage of the same lesson/story.
Before delving into the lessons Lilith imparts through our charts, it’s essential to understand her mythological origins. Tracing back to Mesopotamian and Judaic lore, Lilith is portrayed as Adam’s initial wife in the Garden of Eden. While Eve was created from Adam’s rib, Lilith was formed beside him from the earth, signifying her equality rather than subordination to Adam. This likely unsettled Adam, who, like any individual, harbored desires for dominance. Lilith demanded recognition of her needs, particularly regarding sexual autonomy, challenging Adam’s perception of her role solely for procreation. Instead, Lilith asserted her right to be regarded as Adam’s equal, leading to the conflict of all conflicts.
When she demanded to be treated as an equal, Adam complained to their Father, who reiterated his instructions for them to go forth and multiply. Surely, if he gave them life and an entire planet to inhabit, they could figure out how to treat each other with respect… right? Wrong. Adam doubled down and told her that she either submits to his wishes or she would suffer at his hands. Lilith found a new emotion that day, rage. They fought, and in a moment, she realized that she was afraid. Not just afraid that he might hurt her in that moment for her defiance, but more so afraid that no matter what she said, he would never respect her. She understood that, regardless of her actions, Adam would perpetually view her as a possession rather than an equal. Confronted with this stark reality, Lilith made a decision—to abandon paradise and face exile rather than endure indignity and a life devoid of fulfillment. This pivotal moment marked the birth of the energy of asteroid Lilith, embodying defiance against oppression and a steadfast commitment to personal autonomy and authenticity.
Asteroid Lilith #1181 marks the inception of the journey. It signifies the departure from the Garden of Eden, and the house and sign placements indicate where the ensuing battle will unfold—a battle that may leave us deeply wounded but ultimately liberated. This is the wound that propels us to rise from our knees, where we choose to relinquish everything rather than endure another moment under a power imbalance. It’s often linked to a pivotal fight-or-flight moment, symbolizing the transition from submission to self-determination.
Lilith roamed the earth freely, defying expectations and embracing her sexuality without inhibition. Settling in a cave in the Red Sea, she bore demon offspring by the hundreds, drawing the attention of heavenly Angels. Adam, feeling lonely and blaming Lilith for the absence of children in the garden, prompted the Angels to retrieve her. They found her amidst a scene of carnal revelry, surrounded by demonic progeny and lovers, still very much unafraid.
“You must return to Adam,” they insisted.
“Will I be respected and regarded as an equal? Will my needs matter?” Lilith countered with a conversation that most of us know all too well.
“Don’t be ridiculous! Your duty is to populate the earth,” they replied dismissively.
Lilith adamantly refused to comply. The Angels relayed her defiance to the Almighty, who decreed that her individual needs could not outweigh her responsibilities. Thus began the era of Dark Moon Lilith or Waldemath Moon. The archangels warned Lilith that if she did not return to Eden to fulfill her duty, she would be compelled to sacrifice 100 of her own demon children each morning. Despite the grave consequence, Lilith remained resolute, choosing freedom over subservience, unwilling to endure disrespect and exploitation again.
Lilith sends them away, empty-handed. “Tell your Daddy that if that’s the price he is going to force me to pay to be respected, then I will pay it. Everyone will know what it costs me, and who requires it of me.”
The Angels return to report back, and God decides that it would be best to form a new wife for Adam, one that will be subservient and willing to do her duty. He forms her from Adam’s own rib, and thus the story goes…
Meanwhile, back in the Red Sea, we find Lilith. Isolated, alone, and screaming her pain into every rising sun. Every morning as the day breaks, Lilith does too. She kisses her darling demon children and then tears them apart herself, with her own hands. She wails at the heavens as she does it, wanting her father in heaven and everyone in-between to bear witness to the price she is forced to pay for insisting that she be considered…and then she goes about her day…doing whatever the f she wants.
#h58 Waldemath Moon or Dark Moon Lilith signifies the space where we defiantly embrace our inner demons, regardless of gender. It’s where men embody their ruthless nature, while women dance freely on stage in exchange for money. Here, individuals feel liberated but perpetually alone, isolated, and fractured. It’s in this realm that Lilith earns her reputation as a wild, demonic “night creature,” associated with curses on pregnancies and even infant mortality due to her mythological narrative.
Time goes on, as it does and Lilith settles into her life and routine. It’s bloody, dark, painful and beautifully unrestrained. Anyone who has faced their inner demons knows that it is rarely an outside force that brings us out of it, but more likely that we simply grow tired our own bullshit and excuses. Yes, we are free to do as we please, middle fingers in the air, but we are undoubtedly alone. We push anyone of value away whether it be intentionally to protect them from our short comings and carnage, or because the way we are living is detrimental and distasteful to people who want to live their lives in the sun. One day we look up and we’re bored with it. We’ve slept with everyone, done all the drugs and the drained all the bottles. The oscillation simple becomes redundant and something inside of us tells us that we are ready for more. We’ve accepted our demons and we’ve grown tired of the pain.
Having found peace, this is where Lilith reemerges whole. She’s no longer afraid of being dominated or used. She knows exactly how powerful she is and while she no longer has the desire to prove it to anyone but herself she will not hesitate to call on that power if the need arises.
Black Moon Lilith – True/Osculating #h13 – Mean #h12
Emerging from the Red Sea whole. The house and sign we find BML in is where the final show down between our souls and our demons takes place. Here we have to opportunity to become conscious of our power, and to balance the feminine and masculine energies within us. Sex is empowering, pure, and for enjoyment – divine creation. Wild, radical, femininity. THIS is the placement astro.com asteroids chart type, which I recommend.
Lilith in the Signs
Lilith in Aries or the 1st House
Aries Lilith is in it to win it – at any cost. These individuals have no problem cutting the competition down at the knees. Second place isn’t an option and they often are not above using sex to get what they want. They demand to be put first OR they swing in the completely opposite direction and they can’t stand to be acknowledged outside of the group. Once they have faced their dark side they will make powerful leaders and champions of the disadvantaged.
Lilith in Taurus or the 2nd House
These individuals lives revolve around having or not. They can be greedy and self indulgent – OR they will swing wildly in the opposite direction and shun all things materialistic. Many grow up lacking security and self worth, and sometimes basic necessities like food and shelter. They may come across as selfish, insecure, and inherently stubborn. Loss or the fear of loss is a major theme. Dark side mastered, these individuals will know their self worth and will not be afraid to share resources because they have learned that they can be skilled providers.
Lilith in Gemini or the 3rd House
In Gemini Lilith will present as having extreme issues with communication. Whether it’s an inability to speak up for themselves or not being able to stop talking, one way or another learning how to effectively communicate is often a central topic. Their words will often be misinterpreted or found to be offensive even if no offense is intended. Lies may play a prominent role in their story. They may also be highly skilled with words and perpetually feel like no one cares to listen. A healed Lilith in Gemini has learned to voice their opinions openly and will not care how it is interpreted. They know that their voice matters and they are masters at uncovering the truth.
Lilith in Cancer or the 4th House
Cancer is the sign of home and family so when Lilith is found here this individual will most likely have serious issues to face in the home while growing up. Their parents (usually the mother) will either be overbearing or neglectful, but not anything in between. Enmeshment is usually a theme and emotional independence is a foreign concept. This pattern is usually carried over into their relationship with their own children (unless it presents as fertility issues, which it is known to do) until they are forced to face their shadow in the dark. A healed BML in Cancer has learned to find and share emotional stability. They are the healers of transgenerational trauma we find in the matriarchal side of the family.
Lilith in Leo or the 5th House
Black Moon Lilith in Leo can’t express themselves freely or comfortably. They often long for the spotlight to be shown on them while also suffering from some of the worst stage fright you’ve ever seen. Leos are always either acting as Mufsa, Simba, or Scar and with BML here it’s Scar we see. Overcompensation, false pride, and selfishness are common. Someone with this placement that has healed themselves will no longer feel the need to prove themselves. They will know their worth and will no longer feel the need to stand on others to be seen.
Lilith on Virgo or the 6th House
Nothing short of perfection will satisfy someone with Black Moon Lilith in Virgo. These people can be so logical that they are cynical. Eating disorders, body dysmorphia, and OCD are not uncommon. They can be prudish, anxious, and may see love as purely transactional. Occasionally it will manifest so far in the other direction that they are slobs who wallow in their own filth or become hoarders. BML rarely exists in the middle of anything, that is until she is acknowledged. Once these wounds are addressed these people are skilled at embodying both the virgin and the whore simultaneously, but never again feel the need to be seen as either. They are accepting of the flaws they find in both themselves and others.
Lilith in Libra or the 7th House
In the house of relationships Black Moon Lilith finds it impossible to maintain one. They are often starved for love no matter how much of it is actually being thrown at them. Balance is ever elusive when BML is present but it’s doubly so when found here, as is the ability to make a decision. These individuals generally come from notoriously broken homes and as adults they can become doormats to their partners. Once healed, these people are able to see everything from every side and are highly skilled negotiators.
Lilith in Scorpio or the 8th House
Of all the signs of the zodiac, Scorpio would be considered to be the most comfortable placement, as Lilith is quite similar to Pluto. The themes found here will be about power, control, jealousy, rage, and vindictiveness. Secrets will flow like water as the individual grows up learning that everyone has them and being determined that no one will ever know theirs. Eventually all secrets come out and when these people are forced to stand in the light with theirs and when the smoke clears we are left with an incredibly powerful human. Fully transformed and whole, they no longer wield their power as a sword, instead it becomes a shield for themselves and those around them. They learn to protect others and not just themselves. They welcome change and in fact become agents of it, for the greater good.
Lilith in Sagittarius or the 9th House
Individuals with Black Moon Lilith in Sagittarius yearn to see the world and for whatever reason can’t leave, or they want nothing more than to further their education and are prevented from doing so. More than anything they want to grow and expand and life won’t allow that to happen. It may be their parents who have restrictive ideals and expectations , or it could be circumstantial but whatever the case is they usually feel constricted.
Lilith in Capricorn or the 10th House
This Lilith feels shame around the subject of success. They either can never achieve enough or they somehow feel ashamed of achieving it. Ambition becomes a dirty word, one way or the other. They can also come across as cold and emotionless, or have issue with people of authority. At the root of all of it is a fear of rejection. To heal this Lilith they must focus on learn to be vulnerable with others and accept their own abilities.
Lilith in Aquarius or the 11th House
Aquarius Lilith will either never feel as if they fit in with a group, rebelling as the poster child wild one, or they will put so much importance on being the IT person that they become completely fake and superficial. They will miss out on so many real experiences because they will always be trying to manufacture what they believe it *should* look like, but as is the case with most fake things, people can generally see through them, leaving them feeling alone still. To heal this Lilith they have to accept themselves as they are and learn to allow situation to develop organically.
Lilith in Pisces or the 12th House
A Lilith that has issue (too much or too little) with spirituality, substance abuse, or needy people in general, whether it’s themselves or others. Often times we find Lilith in Pisces in the charts of religious zealots (too much). In the other direction we may find someone who has sworn off all spirituality and religion altogether. Once healed, this Lilith placement will understand that life isn’t all or nothing, and that everyone arrives where they are supposed to be when they are supposed to be there.